Vulnerability + value = Fast Trust

Mark Manson's book “Attracting women through honesty” focuses mainly around this topic - vulnerability. The idea is to expose yourself, not the parts you want the other person to hear or would make you look cool, but the first thought that comes to your mind, unfiltered when you hear a word.

I practiced this as I approached women in conversation. As the conversation brought topics, I picked up on them and would say something that would reveal my opinion of it, sometimes in a funny way.

For example, this girl I approached as she was about to catch the train I started the conversation by saying “hi! yeah I like to talk to strangers, I know it’s weird.”

As we went on we started talking about “soft skills” at some point. To that I said, “isn’t this what we’re doing soft skills? How would you build trust with a stranger in the first few minutes of interacting with them?”

I believe these statements may have made my opinions more interesting to her to ponder upon, making her engage longer in the conversation and willing to meet again after it.